Marry Poppins and the Puzzles of Paradox

By Helene Vachet

Originally printed in the January-February 2004 issue of Quest magazine. 
Citation: Vachet, Helene. "Marry Poppins and the Puzzles of Paradox." Quest  92.1 (JANUARY-FEBRUARY 2004):28-33.

Theosophical Society - Helene Vachet had a spiritually eclectic upbringing, which included the study of Theosophy, Buddhism, and Liberal Catholicism. She has a BA in history and English from Immaculate Heart College and an MA in counseling from CSUN. Helene has been a teacher, a counselor, an assistant principal, and a writer for New Perspectives Magazine, as well as a contributor to Quest Magazine. She moved to Ojai from Los Angeles with her husband and enjoys antiquing, walking her dog, gardening, researching and writing, listening to audio books, viewing films, and engaging in stimulating conversation.

Mary Poppins is probably the most famous nanny in history. She arrives out of nowhere to apply for a position with the Banks family and is hired on the spot, without references. Mary Poppins is able to evoke in others a recognition of truth, especially in Mr. Banks, who says that she paid them a signal honor by coming to their house. The lesson Mary Poppins teaches is to use our intuition, to look within, to find the truth. This theme continues throughout the stories, particularly in adventures involving the two older Banks children, Michael and Jane. Mary Poppins almost always denies that anything unusual happened, in order to make them think. Likewise, each adventure has an encrypted, paradoxical message to make the reader look within.

The Mystery of Expectations

Going upstairs to see the nursery, Mary Poppins rides up the banister of the staircase, going against gravity. Only the children notice this phenomenon; Mrs. Banks does not. What is the meaning of riding up the banister? Obviously, this establishes Mary Poppins as a person with magical powers and is a preview of the greater magic to follow.

Once in the nursery, Mary Poppins begins to unpack. The children have looked in her suitcase and found it empty, but Mary Poppins takes out "seven flannel nightgowns, a pair of boots, a set of dominoes, two bathing-caps, a postcard album and, last of all, came a folding camp bedstead complete with blankets and an eiderdown, all to the wonder and amazement of the children." This story illustrates the paradox of expectations: When you expect big things to happen, you get nothing; but when you expect nothing, you get everything. Mary Poppins herself, presents a paradox. Her looks are unremarkable. She is certainly no beauty; she is plain like a Dutch doll. Her role in life is also not powerful—she is a nanny. Caroline Myss, noted medical intuitive, calls paradox the language of the Divine. She says in Spiritual Power, Spiritual Practice that "small is big and big is small—Heaven speaks to us in paradox."

Pamela L. Travers, the Discoverer of Mary Poppins

My encounter with Mary Poppins began with the Disney movie starring the truly magical Julie Andrews as Mary Poppins, Dick Van Dyke as Bert the chimney sweep, Glynis Johns as Mrs. Banks, and the great David Tomlinson as Mr. Banks. The movie was delightful, but gave no inkling of the real magic of the universe embedded in the stories. To find that mystery, one has to read the books by Pamela L. Travers. Yet somehow Mary Poppins was not part of my childhood reading. It was not until 2002, when I was asked to review A Lively Oracle: A Centennial Celebration of P. L. Travers, Creator of Mary Poppins, that I became intrigued with the character of Mary Poppins and with Travers, who said that she didn't create Mary Poppins, but discovered her.

Travers was born of Irish descent in the outback of Australia in 1899. Early in life, she became aware of her gift of storytelling and would entertain her brother and sisters with tales that she created. After a brief career on the stage in Sydney, she went to Ireland, where she wrote for the Irish Statesman and befriended A. E. (George Russell), the famous Irish poet and Theosophist. She became an intimate part of a literary circle composed of W. B. Yeats, Padraic Colum, James Stephens, Lady Gregory, George Bernard Shaw, and others. Later she moved to England and wrote for the New English Weekly. There her circle of friends expanded to include A. R. Orage, P. D. Ouspensky and G. I. Gurdjieff. Meanwhile, W. B. Yeats translated the Upanishads, which was to have a profound influence on Travers, as did Hindu mythology and Buddhism, the lore of the Navajo Indians, and Jungian psychology. Travers wrote numerous poems and articles for well-known journals (later in life, she wrote mainly Jungian articles for Parabola magazine) as well as books, among which are seven Mary Poppins stories produced between 1934 and 1988.

The Meaning of Paradox

Mary Poppins, one could say, resembles a guardian angel, daimon, or cosmic being who comes from time to time to visit Earth. She never settles with the Banks family for very long, but while she is there, she teaches the family, primarily the children, about the deeper meaning of life. She does this through magical outings with the children during the day or at night when the children dream or wake up and seem to leave their room. Joseph Campbell wrote that we must follow our bliss and that to do this, we must put ourself at risk and doors will open. In the Mary Poppins stories, the children follow their bliss, always putting themselves seemingly at risk, and the universe opens for them and, vicariously, for us.

What intrigues me is the interpretation of these adventures. Their meaning is embedded in paradox,like a Zen koan or the wonderful stories of the Upanishads, part of the sacred mythology of India. Rohit Mehta, the Indian and Theosophical scholar, writes in The Call of the Upanishads that "A paradox is the placing of two opposites in juxtaposition. There is no solution to a paradox, a paradox can only be resolved or more truly dissolved" (p.12). Mehta explains that to reconcile a paradox, we must see the two opposites existing in the same place and at the same time. Since the human mind cannot conceive of this, he says, we finally reach a field of nothingness because the two opposites have canceled each other out, leaving nothing. "It is out of this nothingness, out of this negativity that a positive experience is born" and we are able to reconcile the opposites. Again and again in Mary Poppins, Travers asks the question: What will the resolution be when the opposites meet?

The Symbolism of the East Wind

The first chapter of the Mary Poppins series, "East Wind," explains how she arrives at number seventeen Cherry Tree Lane. Mary Poppins first appears as a shape, "tossed and bent under the wind." Two of the Banks children, Jane and Michael, notice that the shape is carried by the air and flung at the gate,then lifted by the wind and carried to the front door. Later, Michael Banks says to Mary Poppins, "You"ll never leave us, will you?" Mary Poppins replies, "I"ll stay till the wind changes." In other stories, she descends from the sky riding a kite or her parrot-headed umbrella.

What is the significance of the sky and wind bringing Mary Poppins to Cherry Tree Lane and determining the duration of her sojourn there? This reference is reminiscent of a passage from The Voice of theSilence by H. P. Blavatsky, a treatise derived from The Book of the Golden Precepts, studied by mystical students in the East. In fragment forty, the text says, ""Tis only then thou canst become a "Walker of the Sky" who treads the winds above the waves, whose step touches not the waters"(p. 9). The glossary excerpt for this fragment refers to this siddhi, or spiritual power, as being a "sky-walker" wherein "the body of the yogi becomes as one formed of the wind; as a cloud from which limbs have sprouted out," after which the yogi "beholds the things beyond the seas and stars; he hears the language of the devas and comprehends it and perceives what is passing in the mind of the ant" (p. 77). Known as the Great Exception, this aptly describes the powers of Mary Poppins, meaning in this context that she has gone beyond the evolution of humanity and her life now stands in contrast to those who have not yet reached this stage.

Discerning the Nature of Free Will

In the chapter entitled, "John and Barbara"s Story," a starling, a wise bird, visits the nursery at Cherry Tree Lane and communes with Mary Poppins and the babies, John and Barbara. Through their conversation, we become aware that the babies, the starling, and Mary Poppins understand the language of the wind, the stars, and the sunlight. However, the starling laments that the children will soon forget everything about where they came from. The children, of course, vehemently protest. Soon, however, they do forget.

This theme is explored further in the chapter entitled, "The New One" in Mary Poppins Comes Back. When the baby Annabel is born, the starling makes another visit, and he turns somersaults on the windowsill, clapping his wings wildly together each time his head comes up. "What a treat!" he pants, when at last he stands up straight. (Now he had someone to whom he could speak again.) The starling asks Annabel to tell the fledgling that accompanies him to tell where she came from:

"I am earth and air and fire and water," she said softly. " I come from the Dark where all things have their beginnings. I come from the sea and its tides, I come from the sky and its stars, I come from the sun and its brightness—and I come from the forest of earth. Slowly, I moved at first always sleeping and dreaming. I remembered all I had been and I thought of all I shall be. And when I had dreamed my dream I awoke and came swiftly. I heard the stars singing as I came and I felt warm wings about me. I passed the beasts of the jungle and came through the dark, deep waters." "It was a long journey! A long journey indeed!" said the starling softly, lifting his head from his breast. "And ah, so soon forgotten!"

This episode is reminiscent of the soul's encounter with the river Lethe in Greek mythology. The souls of the dead bathe there before they are born, so they will not remember their previous history and choices made before birth (karma) until their life is over. If we knew what happened in past lives with the people we know in the present, we might avoid these people and many of life's experiences. How can we operate with free will and choice if we know our sacred contracts, asks Caroline Myss, author of Sacred Contracts. In The Secrets of Dr. Traverner, Diane Fortune, the occult fiction writer of the early twentieth century, wrote about a character who refused to come completely into her body because she knew her fate and was afraid to face it. This presents the paradox that from ignorance we exercise free will; from knowledge we forfeit our right to choose.

Exploring Moon Magic at the Zoo

One day Michael mentions to Mary Poppins that he wonders what happens at the zoo at night. After the children are put in bed that night, a disembodied voice calls to Michael and Jane and tells them to get dressed and leads them to the zoo. There everything is the opposite of the usual: the animals run the zoo, the people are in cages, and all of the animals coexist in perfect accord. Although the lion that the children encounter says that he is the king, the real king is a hamadryad, a huge hooded snake that Mary Poppins calls "cousin." This evening is an occasion for the meeting and the resolution of opposites, ostensibly because Mary Poppins's birthday fell on the full moon. The climax of the activity was the grand chain when all of the animals circle around Mary Poppins in dance. The hamadryad escorts the children to the dance, and he gives Mary Poppins a snakeskin as her birthday present. The next day, she wears it as a belt, proving to the children that the adventure was real.

What lesson was Travers trying to convey with this story? The idea of rebirth may be demonstrated by the imagery of both the moon and the serpent, the former having phases and the latter shedding its skin.The moon dies with each cycle and is resurrected anew. The snake sheds its skin and is renewed as life is renewed by the progeny of each generation.

Another aspect of the story is reflected in Mary Poppins calling the hamadryad "cousin." Heinrich Zimmer, the great German scholar of Eastern religions and their iconography, explains that in South India, a nagini or naga (snake deity) in the family tree gives it greater importance. It is believed in Indian mythology that nagas are genii, guardian spirits, considered to be superior to humans, and they are renowned for their cleverness and charm. They traditionally wear a precious jewel in their heads, and they dwell in resplendent palaces studded with gems and pearls at the bottoms of rivers, lakes, and seas. They are the keepers of the life energy, he says, that is stored in the earthly waters of springs, wells, and ponds as well as being the guardians of the riches of the deep sea: corals, shells, and pearls.

The story of Nagarjuna is a favorite of both Heinrich Zimmer and the noted Theosophist Joy Mills. When the Buddha began teaching his doctrine of nirvana, he soon realized that humankind was not prepared to fully accept his doctrine of the void. They shrank from the implications of his vision. Therefore, he entrusted the deeper interpretation of his doctrines to the nagas, who were told to safeguard it until people were ready to understand. It wasn't until seven centuries had passed that the great sage Nagarjuna, Arjuna of the Nagas, was born. He was initiated by the serpent kings into the "truth that all is void." He brought to humanity the full-fledged Buddhist teachings of the Mahayana which illustrate the paradox of emptiness being full and fullness being empty.

Buddhist scholar Malcolm David Eckel says that the verses of Nagarjuna can be interpreted to mean that emptiness is a state of awareness, not just a state of being. However, a most intriguing resolution was demonstrated by Don Campbell, author of The Mozart Effect, at the Theosophical Society in the Ojai Valley. He filled a metal cup with miscellaneous objects from his pocket and then hit it with a gong. The resulting sound was faint and muffled. When he hit the empty cup with the gong, the sound that resulted was a beautiful and melodious chime.

Discovering the Magic of the Sun

In "The Evening Out," Jane and Michael are able to walk in the sky, where they are invited to a heavenly circus, the polar opposite of the earthly circus at the zoo. Here the animals are the constellations and the circus master is the sun. Instead of dancing the grand chain, the animals dance the "Dance of the Wheeling Sky," apparently all in honor of Mary Poppins"s evening out. Michael is given the moon to hold, presumably because he had asked for it earlier during the day. When it begins to wane and shrink in size, Michael says to the sun,

"It couldn't have been a real moon, could it?" The sun replies, "What is real and what is not? Can you tell me or I you? Perhaps we shall never know more than this: that to think a thing is to make it true." And so, if Michael thought he had the Moon in his arms—why, then, he had indeed. "Then," said Jane wonderingly, "is it true that we are here tonight or do we only think we are?" The Sun smiled again, a little sadly. "Child," he said, "seek no further! From the beginning of the world all men have asked that question. And I, who am Lord of the Sky—even I do not know the answer!"

Joseph Campbell in his elegant prose describes this situation of the sun being all light without darkness, containing only the shadows of those who do not open to the light:

What we all want surely, is to know the truth, even though its full knowledge may comeonly with the dissolution or stilling of the activity of the world. And so, whereas we have a deluding creation, maya [illusion] on the one hand, we have an illuminating destruction on the other, and between the two flows the enigma of the universe (p.264).

This story is also reminiscent of the paradoxical iconography of the Hindu deity Shiva. He is surrounded by circles of flame, rings of fire representing the sun. Shiva"s dance is the universe. A skull and a new moon--death and rebirth at the same moment, the moment of becoming-- adorn his hair. In one hand, Shiva holds a little drum that goes tick-tick-tick. That is the drum of time, the tick of time that shuts out the knowledge of eternity. We are enclosed in time. But in Shiva"s opposite hand is a flame that burns away the veil of time (the veil of maya), and opens our minds to eternity (truth).

Finding One"s Shadow on Hallowe'en

In Mary Poppins in the Park, the last chapter is called "Hallowe'en." The events of the day foreshadow the events of the evening. Mrs. Corry, a friend of Mary Poppins, accuses Michael and Jane of stepping on her shadow. Jane tells Mrs. Corry that she didn't think that shadows could feel. Mrs. Corry replies that this is nonsense and that shadows feel twice as much as we do. She warns the children to take care of their shadows or their shadows won"t take care of them. Finally, she asks them how they would like to find out that their shadows had run away. "And what"s a man without a shadow? Practically nothing, you might say!"

Much later, Michael arouses Jane during the night because he woke up and saw their shadows outside the house. They leave their bedroom and follow their shadows. When they finally catch up, Jane asks, "Why did you run away?" The shadows reply that it is Halloween, the night when every shadow is free. Also, this is a very special occasion—there is a full moon and it has fallen on the Birthday Eve (Mary Poppins' birthday, of course). The two shadows flit away with the children not far behind, on their way to the park for the party.

This episode brings to mind a passage in The Sorcerers' Crossing: A Woman"s Journey by Taisha Abelar. She was a student of Carlos Castaneda and gives us a glimpse of the American Indian perspective of the shadow. Since Travers had been initiated into the Navajo mysteries and given a secret name, this knowledge was hers also:

"I have news for you," Clara continued. "You"ve seen shadows move before as a child, but then you were not yet rational so it was all right to see them move. As you grew up, your energy was harnessed by social constraints, and so you forgot you had seen them moving, and only remember what you think is permissible to remember" (p.74).

At the party, the children have a conversation with the Bird Woman regarding the nature of shadows. Jane says that shadows aren"t real because they go through things and that they are made of nothing. The Bird Woman responds, "Nothin"s made of nothin", lovey. And that"s what they"re for—to go through things. Through and out on the other side—it"s the way they get to be wise. You take my word for it, my loves, when you know what your shadder knows—then you know a lot. Your shadder's the other part of you, the outside of your inside—if you understand what I mean."

During the party, in further conversation with the Bird Woman, the children ask her why Mary Poppins's shadow and that of Mrs. Corry were not free like the others. The Bird Woman replies that Mrs. Corry wasold and that she had learned a lot. "Let "er was old escape—not she. And as for Mary Poppins"shadder—It wouldn"t leave" er if you paid it—not for a thousand pound!"

Once we acknowledge our shadows and cease to lie to ourselves about who we are, we will have the greatest protection against evil. Then we will be able to utilize the creative energies of the shadow to assist us on our journey toward inpiduation. Carl Jung said that our first contact with the unconscious is always with the shadow. From the perspective of Jungian psychology, the shadow is the part of ourselves that is unknown, a paradox in itself. How can a part of ourselves be unknown to us? To become whole and fully conscious, we must integrate our unknown self, our shadow, with our conscious selves. To do this, we must search for clues in the secret recesses of our being—our deepest desires and our greatest fears. We must analyze the reasons for our mirth, our sadness, our illnesses, and our addictions and address those parts of us, however unpleasant or diminishing they may be to our persona, the face we present to the world. There is a positive aspect to this investigation, say Connie Zweig and Steve Wolf in Romancing the Shadow: "The shadow reveals its gold in creative works, which build bridges between the conscious and unconscious worlds" (p. 41).

To express the inexpressible in a form both enjoyable and meaningful was Travers"s task. We are both entertained and prodded to look within while following the adventures of her famous nanny, Mary Poppins, and the Banks children. If we are successful in decoding the messages, perhaps for a brief moment we can still the cacophony of voices in our mind to hear the truth.


Mary Poppins books by P. L. Travers: 

Mary Poppins (1934)

Mary Poppins Comes Back (1935)

Mary Poppins Opens the Door (1944)

Mary Poppins in the Park (l952)

Mary Poppins from A-Z (1963) 

Mary Poppins in Cherry Tree Lane (1982)

Mary Poppins and the House Next Door (1988)

 


References 

Abelar, Taisha. The Sorcerers" Crossing: A Woman"s Journey. New York: Penguin Books, 1992. 

Blavatsky, H.P. The Voice of the Silence. Adyar: Theosophical Publishing House, 1992. 

Campbell, Joseph. Myths to Live By. New York: Penguin Compass, 1993. 

Campbell, Joseph. The Power of Myth. New York: Doubleday, 1988. 

Campbell, Joseph. Baksheeh and Brahman. New York: Harper-Collins, 1955. 

Draper Ellen Dooling, and Jenny Koralek., Eds. A Lively Oracle: A Centennial Celebration of P. L. Travers, Creator of Mary Poppins. New York: Larson Publications, 1999. 

Eckel, Malcolm David. To See the Buddha: A Philosopher"s Quest for the Meaning of Emptiness. New York: HarperCollins Publishers, 1992. 

Hillman, James. The Soul"s Code: In Search of Character and Calling. New York: Random House, 1969. 

Mehta, Rohit. The Call of the Upanishads. Delhi: Motilal Banarsidass, 1970. 

Myss, Caroline. Sacred Contracts: Awakening Your Divine Potential. New York: Random House, 2001. 

Myss, Caroline. Spiritual Power, Spiritual Practice. (Part of 6-CD Set Audio Collection.) Boulder, CO: SoundsTrue, 2001. 

Zimmer, Heinrich. Myths and Symbols in Indian Art and Civilization. New York: Pantheon Books, 1953. 

Zweig, Connie and Steve Wolf. Romancing the Shadow: A Guide to Soul Work for a Vital, Authentic Life. New York: Ballantine 1997.


The Golden Age, Aquarius, and the Ringed Planet

By Carlos Cardoso Aveline

Originally printed in the January-February 2005 issue of Quest magazine. 
Citation: Aveline, Carlos Cardoso. "The Golden Age, Aquarius, and the Ringed Planet" Quest  93.1 (JANUARY-FEBRUAY 2005):

In the last paragraph of The Key to Theosophy, H. P. Blavatsky suggests that the earth could be "a heaven" in the twenty-first century compared to the nineteenth century. To those who are accustomed to the usual content of newspapers and television networks at the beginning of the twenty-first century, such an optimistic view of the future may be rather startling, if not altogether unacceptable. But life is far more surprising than present-day journalism—or fiction. Writing in 1887, the founder of the modern esoteric movement gave the dates and duration of recent astrological ages, indicating that the year 1900 was to be the starting point for the new Aquarian age. HPB wrote that "one of the several remarkable cycles" coming to a close in the end of the nineteenth century was "the Messianic cycle of the Samaritan (also Kabalistic) Jews of the man connected with Pisces." (SD Questions and Answers, p. 100)

And she explained: "It is a cycle, historic and not very long, but very occult, lasting about 2,155 solar years, but having a true significance only when computed by lunar months. It occurred [in] 2410 and 255 B.C., or when the equinox entered into the sign of the Ram, and again into that of Pisces."

Geoffry Barborka, author of The Divine Plan comments:"Since 2155 year is the time period for the duration of each of the cycles of the age of Aries and Pisces, and as the Piscean age began in 255 B.C., the date of the beginning of the Aquarian age is 1900 A.D."

Blavatsky could foresee that the expansion of higher mind brought about by the new age would be dramatically painful at first. Referring to the equinox, she said: "When it enters, in a few years, the sign of Aquarius, psychologists will have extra work to do, and the psychic idiosyncrasies of humanity will enter into a great change."

The transition of astrological ages is a complex process, though, and its effects may take a few hundred years to become perfectly visible. One of the occult time cycles mentioned in letter 48 of The Mahatma Letters corresponds to 107 years, and only in 2007—2008 will we complete this first smaller cycle since the beginning of Aquarian age.

The twenty-first century is a strong numerological figure, which equals three times seven—and HPB made a bright prophetical statement as to the karmic content of this period:

Error is powerful only on the surface, prevented as she is by Occult Nature from going any deeper; for the same Occult Nature encircles the whole globe, in every direction, leaving not even the darkest corner unvisited. And, whether by phenomenon or miracle, by spirit hook or bishop's crook, Occultism must win the day, before the present era reaches Sani's (Saturn's) triple septenary of the Western cycle in Europe, in other words—before the end of the twenty first century A. D. (Collected Writings 14:27)

Strong words indeed, and the fact that HPB's mention of Saturn in these lines is not casual. From an astrological point of view, Saturn is the stern master of the lower quaternary or basic self, in human beings. That is not a problem, though. The upper triad, or spiritual soul, has nothing to lose from the slow, powerful movements of that planetary spirit whose physical vehicle was called by Camille Flammarion the "marvel of the solar system."

When we think of this planet—which has thirty moons and seven rings, according to current data—we must bear in mind that there is a great difference between its body and spirit. HPB wrote:

Saturn, "the father of Gods," must not be confused with its namesake—the planet of the same name . . .the two—though in one sense identical, as are, for instance, physical man and his soul—must be separated in the question of worship. (Collected Writings 14:334)

So the material planet Saturn is the vehicle of the mythological Saturn. Although there is a clear difference between the material and spiritual aspects of this planet, the interaction between them is much like the relationship between physical man and his soul.

This planet is the master of karma, time, and structures.

It presides over our karmic harvest, but it is also the regent of Kriyamana karma, the new karma we choose to plant at each moment. Saturn helps us make use of present opportunities in order to attain a lasting happiness.

Master of concentration, Saturn has an important role to play in the ladder to heaven taught in the Mithraic mysteries of ancient Rome. It is said that this ladder has seven steps. The first one corresponds to "the sky of Saturn," that is, the spirit of that planet. In any sacred ladder, the first step upward presides over the transition between the lower ground and the way to heaven. The first step makes us confront the borderline between the material and pine dimensions of life. Thus, astronomically, Saturn is the planet of the rings and establishes the limit between the "domestic" and the "galactic" sections of our solar system.

Mythologically, this planet spirit also corresponds to the Jewish Christian god Jehovah. Chronos/Saturn, the stem god in the Paradise's golden age, tries to preserve spiritual life by preventing the personal ego from prematurely separating itself at the end of the first races.

It "devours" its children (personal egos) back into an undifferentiated unity, until the right time has come. When separation/differentiation prevails, there is the severe and solemn warning from the Saturnian Lord, who sends Adam (third root race) away from the Garden and into the hard world of dualistic life. (Genesis 3)

Saturn has many names, and in Isis Unveiled we read:

Ilda Baoth, the "Son of Darkness," and the creator of the material world, was made to inhabit the planet Saturn, which identifies him still more with the Jewish Jehovah, who was Saturn himself, according to the Ophites, and is by them denied his Sinaitic name. From Ilda Baoth emanate six spirits, who respectively dwell with their father in the seven planets. (Isis Unveiled 8)

These planets are, as HPB explains, Saturn, Mars, Sun, Moon, Jupiter, Mercury, and Venus, the same celestial bodies that form the Mithraic ladder to heaven. HPB acknowledged Saturn as the king of the golden age. In many different traditions there is a direct relationship between the awakening of the higher mind and the emergence of golden ages. In Buddhism and other religions, gold (or yellow) is a symbol of pine consciousness and spiritual soul. Any golden age is an age of buddhi manas, or spiritual intelligence, and there is a direct connection between this higher mind and Saturn.

In the twenty-first century, Saturn's influence and lessons help us recover at least parts of the golden consciousness that leads to a golden society. In our present cycle, it means the awakening of the sixth, intuitive subprinciple, within the fifth, mental principle, or simply the rebirth of a spiritual intelligence, a higher level of consciousness from which the next civilizations must emanate.

It is a natural process now to rediscover the bright side of Saturn. It is an appropriate time to remember that the ringed planet was for many centuries the astrological regent of Aquarius—before Uranus was discovered in 1781.

Being co regent of the Aquarian age, Saturn will have an ever inspiring role during this new cycle, a time when the law of brotherhood taught by the Mahatmas can be better understood and respected.


Carlos Cardoso Aveline lives in Brazil and is the author of several books on esoteric philosophy. He is also known for translating The Mahatma Letters to A. P. Sinnett into Portuguese. This article was adapted from the theosophical journal Insight (Summer 2004).

References 

Barborka, Geoffrey. The Secret Doctrine Questions and Answers. San Diego, CA: Wizards Bookshelf, 2003.

Blavatsky, H. P. Isis Unveiled. Wheaton, IL: Theosophical Publishing House, 1972.

Blavatsky, H. P. The Key to Theosophy. Adyar, Madras: Theosophical Publishing House, 1987.

De Zirkoff, Boris. Collected Writings of H. P. Blavatsky. Adyar, Madras: Theosophical Publishing House, 1966—1991.

The Mahatma Letters to A. P. Sinnett (chronological sequence). Adyar, Madras: Theosophical Publishing House, 1988.


Ever New

By Betty Bland

Originally printed in the January-February 2005 issue of Quest magazine. 
Citation: Bland, Betty. "Ever New." Quest  93.1 (JANUARY-FEBRUARY 2005):6

Theosophical Society - Betty Bland joined the Theosophical Society on April 30, 1970. She helped to establish the Mt. Gilead, North Carolina Study Center.  Mrs. Bland served as President of the Theosophical Society of America from 2002 to 2011.

In fact, if water does not flow, it does not remain the same, but becomes stagnant. Change occurs in one way or the other. As Madame Blavatsky (HPB) said in The Secret Doctrine when describing the fundamental principles of the universe, motion and change are inevitable as a basic characteristic of manifestation:

This second assertion of The Secret Doctrine is the absolute universality of that law of periodicity, of flux and reflux, ebb and flow, which physical science has observed and recorded in all departments of nature. An alternation such as that of Day and Night, Life and Death, Sleeping and Waking, is a fact so common, so perfectly universal and without exception, that it is easy to comprehend that in it we see one of the absolutely fundamental laws of the universe. (p. 17)

Although everything is in a state of change, some things are more obvious, such as the flow of water and the changes of the seasons. Others are more difficult to notice, such as the evolving changes in ourselves. The changes occur so gradually that we might not notice anything at all. And yet of all the changes in the universe, those wrought in our own consciousness are among the most profound. Humanity's purpose on this earth is to learn and grow through experience as a part of its unfoldment.

Understanding life's changes and working with them can make our lives a lot more pleasant and harmonious with the way things are. Our personal self wants to cling to the things we like and reject the things we don't like. Parents may want to stop the clock and cling to their children at certain cute ages, or to speed up the clock and avoid the difficult stage of the teenage years. Christmas never seems to come, but the end of a relationship or death of a loved one comes much too soon. Our attachment or avoidance of any situation makes the change appear to go very slowly or all too swiftly. Yet all these experiences lie within the inexorable flow of our consciousness.

To accept the changing flow of consciousness and to be able to deal at least somewhat dispassionately with the changes we all encounter are marks of spiritual maturity and bring healing to the sorrows of life. Our lack of flexibility in viewing ourselves, others, or situations blocks our clarity in seeing things as they really are. For instance, we may have grown greatly in our abilities to interface with people or to manage difficult situations, but if the little voice in our heads is repeating an old parental admonishment that we are not good enough, then we may still feel trapped at an earlier stage of development. Old habitual thinking therefore blocks our change and growth, just as a large rock may dam up a stream. Moreover, when we deal with others, if we cannot daily see them with fresh eyes, we might be doing them the same disservice by limiting their ability to grow and change in relationship with ourselves.

To realize that consciousness is like that river into which one can never step twice is to progress toward healing and growth. It is freeing to be able to look forward to the changes that occur and delight in the opportunities they bring. In Michael J. Roads' book, Talking with Nature, he relates how the flowing river taught him about the flow of consciousness. He recognized that consciousness is like the moving water of a river. Although the banks of a river or the body of a friend may look relatively unchanged for long periods of time, there is a constant motion and changing composition. And at every moment one must be able to overlook the relatively static outer form and relate to the newness of the inner life. Then our relationship will be ever new and vital, without the excess baggage of our history. This is a part of what Krishnamurti and other great teachers have meant when referring to "living in the present moment."

If we can tune in to this fresh perspective, we will be better able to tune in to the messages of meaning hidden in the world around us and be flexible enough to flow with the river of consciousness as it unfolds in ourselves and others. We will be able to allow ourselves and others to develop as needed, being ever new creations. Greet the possibilities that flow into each new day with thanksgiving.

This first issue of Quest for 2005 explores ideas about divination as a way to look at the changes in our lives and the world around us. This issue also manifests some of the changes that have been occurring in the background as we flow with our creativity in exploring new images and ways to communicate with our readers. We hope you will be pleased and as always we invite your comments.

A New Expression of a Time Honored Theme

As every member of the Theosophical Society knows, the Society has three objects which have remained relatively unchanged for over a hundred years. These objects are the cornerstone of the Society worldwide and appear on all membership applications. Many members know them by heart and use their basic ideas whenever trying to answer for inquirers that most difficult of questions, "What is Theosophy?" The three objects are:

  1. To form a nucleus of the universal brotherhood of humanity regardless of race, creed, sex, caste, or color;

  2. To encourage the comparative study of religion, philosophy and science;

  3. And to explore the unexplained laws of nature and powers latent in humanity.

Anyone who is in sympathy with these objects will find kindred spirits among us and is invited to join our band of seekers and servers.

In order to communicate these ideas in a more concentrated and modern form, a team of leadership staff, including the National Board of Directors, has been working for a good while to create a new mission statement. Although Theosophy has ancient roots and is ever the same, yet it is ever new.

Our Mission

The Theosophical Society in America encourages open-minded inquiry into world religions, philosophy, science, and the arts, in order to understand the wisdom of the ages, respect the unity of all life, and help people explore spiritual self-transformation.

In this new year, celebrate with us a freshness of vision and an eagerness to approach our mission with renewed zeal in a world that certainly needs our message.


What Is the I Ching?

By Richard W. Brooks

Originally printed in the January-February 2005 issue of Quest magazine. 
Citation: Brooks, Richard W. "What Is the I Ching?" Quest  93.1 (JANUARY-FEBRUAY 2005):20-23

Theosophical Society - Richard Brooks is a retired professor and chair of the Department of Philosophy at Oakland University, Rochester, Michigan. As a Theosophist of more than fifty years, he served on the national board for many years. His specialties are logic, Indic and Chinese philosophy, and parapsychology.

The Chinese classic called I Ching (sometimes written Yi Jing, as it should be pronounced) has been interpreted a number of ways by different scholars and devotees of the text. Is it, as many who consult it claim, a book of divination? Is it more fundamentally a book of wisdom, offering suggestions of what one might do in various situations? Is it a remarkable insight into the basic archetypal possibilities of the human psyche, as Carl Jung believed, and perhaps also related to his notion of synchronicity? Is it basically a resource book that gives us some insight into the social structure of ancient China, as some scholars claim? Is it an early example of a binary number system, anticipating by millennia the switching structure of the modern digital computer? Or is it somehow all of these at once?

The great German Sinologist Richard Wilhelm translated the I Ching in 1923 based on his years of familiarity with the text and his consultation with Chinese who used it. His German translation was then rendered into English by Cary F. Baynes at Jung's request; the revised edition was printed in a new format with a preface by Richard Wilhelm's son, Hellmut, also a Sinologist. Other translations exist, of course, including one published by the Sinologist John Blofeld in 1965. The Chinese scholar Wing-tsit Chan preferred James Legge's 1882 translation. But many of us who have become intrigued with the text and cannot read the Chinese original prefer the Wilhelm-Baynes translation, even though it is, as Chan points out, "interpretative to some extent" (795). Jung, in fact, states that Legge "has done little to make the work accessible to Western minds" (Wilhelm-Baynes, xxi).

Since the Chinese language lacks inflection, the title could be translated either "Book of Change" or "Book of Changes." I prefer the former, since constant change is a basic assumption of ancient Chinese philosophy. The basis of the text is the philosophy of yang and yin, the former being associated with light, strength, affirmation, and so on, and the latter with darkness, weakness, yielding, negation, and so on. Neither is considered superior, since in some situations a dominant and forthright attitude is appropriate, while in others a more submissive attitude is needed. The proper attitude depends on one's situation and the desired outcome.

The yang principle is indicated in the I Ching by an unbroken line and the yin by a broken or divided line, hence the binary aspect of the system. The various combinations of these two lines are made by two trigrams (combinations of three lines) placed one atop the other to create a hexagram (a combination of six lines), making a total of sixty-four possible combinations. The method of reading them is from the bottom upwards. Each trigram is given a Chinese name, as is the combination of the two trigrams in a hexagram. The first hexagram according to the usual system of organization, is called in the Wade-Giles transliteration system Ch'ien, The Creative (or in Gregory Winecup's translation using the pinyin system of transliteration Qian, Strong Action), and is composed of all yang lines. The second hexagram, composed of all yin lines, is K'un, The Receptive (or Kun, Acquiescence). The subsequent hexagrams are all composed of various mixtures of yang and yin lines.

The traditional way of consulting the book is by means of yarrow stalks. It is suggested that this is because the stalks originally come from living organisms and hence are appropriate instruments for consulting what is considered to be a dynamic or living system. It is also a slower method and allows—according to some, including myself—psychokinesis (PK) to influence the stalks at a subconscious level of the psyche. The assumption seems to be that some deeper aspect of ourselves already knows what would be best for us to do in any specific situation, even if our brain-dominated consciousness does not. And that aspect of ourselves somehow influences the way the stalks are divided and counted out. If this is correct, as I believe it is, it implies that one should never consult the I Ching flippantly, disrespectfully, or casually, nor for trivial questions or problems one could easily solve for oneself. It should be used infrequently and only when one has a serious dilemma. In other words, one must attempt to get in touch with one's deeper self and not with some more superficial aspect of one's psyche.

Another method of consulting the book is by tossing ancient Chinese coins. Although they do not have the metaphorical association with life that yarrow stalks do, they at least preserve the association with ancient China. Whether PK—and one's unconscious self—can influence the result as readily is difficult to determine, although PK experiments have been conducted by parapsychologists with such materials, often with statistically significant, although not usually very exuberant, results. Some Americans use ordinary modern currency such as copper pennies, considering that they are comparable to ancient Chinese copper coins. Still more recently, a computer program has been developed that chooses one's hexagram electronically. With all such modern methods, the element of ritual involved in the use of yarrow stalks is bypassed. The few times I have witnessed these modern methods, I felt that the resulting hexagram was somehow inappropriate to the question being asked, often completely unintelligible. That is why I prefer the slower, ancient method using yarrow stalks as is described in Wilhelm-Baynes text (721—24).

Because there are obviously more than just sixty-four different situations one might find oneself in, the text offers a variety of alternatives. There are actually four possible outcomes for each of the six lines when consulting the yarrow stalks. These lines are identified either as "young yang," "young yin," "old yang," or "old yin." The young lines are fixed; that is, they remain unchanged. The old lines are moving; that is, they change into their counterparts: An old yang changes into a young yin and an old yin into a young yang. It is unusual to arrive at a hexagram containing only fixed lines, which suggests a situation that one cannot change and simply has to accept. Equally uncommon would be to arrive at a hexagram with six moving lines, indicating an extremely fluid situation. More common is a hexagram with at least one or two moving lines. In that case, one gets two hexagrams: the starting one and the one it changes into. That suggests possibilities for solving (or resolving) one's present situation creatively instead of reactively, which often happens when one deals with life's problems based on past habit patterns.

Another important aspect of the I Ching is that each hexagram has both a judgment and an image associated with it (collectively called the kua-tz'u), both of which are expressed in metaphors. The text describing each of the possible moving lines (known as the yao-tz'u) is also expressed metaphorically. The vagueness involved in both is important, since it allows one's subconscious—perhaps even one's higher self—to interpret the hexagram in a way that is appropriate to oneself. Two people with two different problems arriving at the same hexagram might appropriately interpret it in different ways according to the nature of their question. In other words, the I Ching is a remarkable book with an almost infinite range of possible answers to life's dilemmas.

In addition to the kua-tz'u and yao-tz'u, there are several commentaries, probably appended to the basic text over several centuries. The most interesting from a theosophical point of view is the wen yen, which stresses the philosophical and ethical implications of the hexagrams. As Wing-tsit Chan observes, it is upon that commentary and some appended remarks (hsi-tz'u), as well as comments on some of the trigrams, "that much of Chinese philosophical speculation has been based" (262).

Just when the I Ching was compiled is difficult to determine. Tradition ascribes the eight trigrams to the legendary hero Fu-hsi (traditionally dated prior to the twenty-third century BCE) and their development into the hexagrams to King Wen (reigned 1171—1122 BCE), although modern scholars dispute this. Hellmut Wilhelm points out only that it is generally agreed that there are several layers of the text, the present form having been reached "in the century before Confucius" (Wilhelm-Baynes xiv). It is known that Confucius (551—479 BCE) included it among the classics (ching) he required his students to study, and it is believed that he wrote a commentary on it (called "The Ten Wings"), although this also has been disputed by some scholars (Chan 262). One assumes that Confucius considered it a book of wisdom rather than of divination, perhaps relating to earlier times before China began to degenerate into interstate warfare (which started during his lifetime but became endemic during 403—222 BCE, called the Warring States period). Confucius looked to the past as a model for restoring political order. In any event, the I Ching assumed great importance in later centuries in China, especially when the examination system required aspirants for government positions to write essays on the Confucian classics.

Theosophical references to China are scarce and to the I Ching even scarcer. H. P. Blavatsky makes several references to Confucius in The Secret Doctrine, but most of them make little sense and none relates in any obvious way to the I Ching. It is a shame, because this Chinese classic, however it is construed, is most interesting. And when it is used as a book of divination—or, if one prefers, of wisdom—it can be extremely illuminating. I have known several theosophists, including both my wife and myself, who consult it when confronted with a difficult situation that we cannot solve with either reason or intuition. It has always proven useful. In one case, which occurred at a theosophical planning seminar I attended, the hexagram, Splitting Apart (po or bo), was a literal description of our situation. It also gave us sensible advice for resolving our impasse, which we did. However, in many cases, the really difficult thing is not interpreting its recommendations but putting them into practice!


References

Chan, Wing-tsit. A Sourcebook in Chinese Philosophy. Princeton: Princeton University Press, 1963.

Wilhelm, Richard, trans. The I Ching or Book of Changes. Rendered into English by Cary F. Baynes. Bolllinger Series XIX. Princeton: Princeton University Press, 1971


Richard Brooks is a retired professor and chair of the Department of Philosophy at Oakland University, Rochester, Michigan. As a Theosophist of more than fifty years, he served on the national board for many years. His specialties are logic, Indic and Chinese philosophy, and parapsychology.


Clarification and Integration of Values

By Vincent Hao Chin, Jr.

Originally printed in the January-February 2005 issue of Quest magazine. 
Citation: Chin, Vincent Hao. "Clarification and Integration of Values" Quest  93.1 (JANUARY-FEBRUARY 2005):24-29

The philosophy of life for every person consists of two aspects:

1. A map of reality—an understanding of what life is all about, of nature and the cosmos

2. A hierarchy of values—a perception of which things are more important than others

The philosopher Will Durant wrote that wisdom is "seeing big things as big, and small things as small." This implies that, first, we see reality objectively, rather than in a distorted way, and second, we're able to see the relative importance of things.

Clarification of values means that we must review which values should guide our life. Value means what is worthwhile. If happiness is worthwhile, then it's a value. If giving time to the family is worthwhile, then it's a value. If playing basketball is worthwhile, then it's a value.

The problem starts when these values conflict, not only with each other but also when they compete for our time and attention. Between family and basketball, which one is more important? Between honesty and earning more money, which one is more important?

When we don't give time to the consideration of this point, then our conditioned values take over. They subconsciously dictate what is more important and what is less important. Thus, a father spends more time with his officemates than his family after work, although when he is later asked about it, he realizes that his family is more important to him than his friends.

KINDS OF VALUES 

There are three kinds of values:

1. Universal values
2. Cultural values
3. Personal values 

Universal Values

Universal values are valued by all human beings due to the intrinsic nature of these values or by virtue of our being human beings.

Truth, for example, is valued for its own sake. We want to know the truth rather than be misled or be under an illusion. We prefer an illusion only when there is fear or there is psychopathology, in which case, we then put the value of avoidance of pain over that of truth. But even in the latter case, it's not because we don't prefer truth to illusion.

Happiness is sought by every human being because of our biological, psychological, and spiritual makeup. Even masochists inflict pain upon themselves because they derive happiness from it.

Universal values are shared by human beings regardless of culture and age. The following are some of these universal values:  

  •  Truth
  •  Happiness
  •  Inner peace
  •  Love
  •  Kindness
  •  Justice
  •  Respect
  •  Courage and fearlessness 

Schools universally espouse these values. But the problem is that schools and teachers don't take them seriously. They recognize that they're often impractical (such as honesty) and almost unattainable (such as happiness or inner peace). Thus, universal values are seen as ideals. Modern society gives evidence to the prevalence of values that contradict these universal values.

Cultural Values

Cultural values are dependent on the social norms, religious beliefs and other environmental situations of people. Thus, in a society in which the ratio of males to females is just one to ten, polygyny may be legal and ethical; if the reverse, polyandry may be the legal and ethical custom. In some countries, porce is permitted, in some it's a sin.

Some cultural values are cruel and yet are tolerated or even promoted by members of the community. For almost a thousand years in China, prior to 1912, many women were subjected to the binding of the feet with cloth to make their feet small and dainty. This results in the breaking of the toes and the deformation of the entire foot. Girls from three years-old onwards may be subjected to this cruel practice by their mothers, and they undergo severe pain for two or more years. The practice was prohibited when Sun Yat Sen founded the Republic of China. Cultural values also change with time. What used to be unethical in one generation may no longer be so in the next.

Many of our attitudes and beliefs are derived from these cultural values and hence are conditioned values. Cultural values are not necessarily good for humanity simply because they have widespread acceptance. We need to review such values, because they can color the way we view life and the way we behave. They can create inner and outer conflicts.

The tendency to accumulate wealth, for example, is a very strong cultural conditioning derived from society's measurement of success or from family expectations. We may not have fears or strong desires that impel accumulation, but our minds subconsciously assume that it is the preferred value, and because it's an embedded or hidden assumption, it's often unquestioned. It then exerts pressure on us and can become exceedingly influential or even overwhelming in view of its unquestioned validity. It can effectively overrule any decision we make to adhere to universal values.

A review of our cultural values is thus a review of our philosophy of life. Few people do this deliberately. It requires a broadness of knowledge about life and human affairs. 

Personal Values

Personal values are worthwhile to a particular individual and differ from person to person. Thus, some people may value art more than earning money and thus spend more time painting, even if it provides little income. Others may value money more than art and thus spend more time buying and selling paintings than being painters themselves.

Personal values are largely subjective and are neither ethical nor unethical except when they go against one of the universal values. Thus, whether we prefer chocolate or vanilla is a subjective preference. But whether we eat the flesh of a mammal can be an ethical issue, because it now touches on the pain and suffering caused by the slaughtering of animals for food.

It's important to realize that inner peace is not possible if our personal values contradict one or more universal values. True inner fulfillment eludes us because we won't be able to integrate the higher and lower aspects of our being.

If I do an injustice to someone while trying to earn money, I won't have inner peace. I'll feel insecure. More important, I intuitively know that it's a wrong thing to do. This sense of unethical action doesn't come from cultural values but is due to an inner sense of right and wrong that we have, regardless of our culture.

Thus, it's important to explore a way of life in which universal values are in harmony with our personal values.

ARE UNIVERSAL VALUES PRACTICAL?

In our lectures, we ask the audience (some of whom are schoolteachers) who among them believes that honesty is the best policy. Perhaps half of them or less raise their hands. When we ask how many of them consider that honesty is practical, usually one or two or none at all raise their hands.

We're facing here a fundamental contradiction between our principles and our daily reality. It seems impractical to be honest or to be truly principled. We believe that we can't rise in our careers if we're honest or if we don't compromise with the demands of the environment that compel us to lie. Or we can't win an election if we're too honest. Or become a successful salesperson unless we exaggerate or misrepresent the product.

How true is this widespread impression?

PRINCIPLES AND ACHIEVEMENT

Many years ago, I read an autobiographical book of Joe Girard, who was listed in the Guinness Book of World Records as the Top Salesman in the World for at least seven consecutive years. Girard was a car and truck salesman. Sometimes customers would come to him to buy a special kind of vehicle that his manufacturer didn't produce. He would tell the customer that his company doesn't have that vehicle, but that it's available from another manufacturer (a competitor), and Girard would even refer the customer to the competitor's dealer. But he would also tell the customer that if in the future the customer needs anything that Girard has, then they should call Girard. He would then give the customer his card.

Such honesty had an effect on potential customers. People from across the continent called Girard if he could supply them with what they needed, and if Girard had it, he stood a good chance of getting the order, because he had been honest with the customer. Girard didn't rise to the top through insincerity and manipulative tactics.

I knew a lady entrepreneur who was one of the materiel vendors of a huge public works project in the Philippines. The public works buyers discovered that among their suppliers, this lady was apparently the only one who didn't overprice or connive with other suppliers to pad their quoted prices. In time, the buyers developed so high a trust in this lady that they would ask her to help them check the prices of items they were buying. Needless to say, this lady received large orders from this public works project, simply because she was honest and trustworthy.

One young public official whom I know very well took the road less traveled and was determined not to succumb to corruption when he was elected mayor of a city in the Philippines. Group after group came to him offering regular amounts of money if he would just agree to look the other way. Time and again he politely declined, until the syndicates found that they were facing a mayor who was dead earnest about his principles. Unlike other politicians, he didn't include journalists and media people in his payroll just to ensure that they said good things about him or to be silent about anything they observed to be wrong. It didn't take long for the people to realize that they had in their midst a truly honest official. They gave him their trust. He won by a landslide in every reelection, with little campaign funds to sustain him. In one election, he ran unopposed. Three years after he stepped down as mayor, he was awarded the Ramon Magsaysay Award (the Asian Nobel Prize) for government service, the only local official ever given such a recognition.

I can cite many examples of people who, when they're clear about their values and have developed mature skills in management and interpersonal relationships, excel in their respective fields and reach levels that are unattainable by people who employ deception or are insincere. There are millions of politicians, but only those who are principled earn the name statesman. There are many so-called religious people, but only a small percentage are called spiritual.

Stephen Covey, in his best—selling Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, noted that the truly successful individuals are those who are character-ethic oriented rather than the personality-ethic oriented. The lives of character-ethic oriented people are guided by principles rather than by conveniences, by what is just and compassionate rather than what is selfish. The personality-ethic oriented individuals may bribe or be insincere in order to achieve a certain goal, but their success will be blocked by walls that can only be surmounted by adherence to universal principles. They may soon discover that they have paid for their short-sighted "success" with a high price.

VALUES IN DAILY LIFE

The test of the practicality of universal values lies in our daily life applications, which I will presently explore.

Most parents lie to their children, and many do so habitually. Why is dishonesty necessary with our own children? Why can't we even be truthful with the people closest to us? Many parents justify their dishonesty by saying that they tell white lies—for the good of their children. But I wonder what is good about having parents who can't be trusted?

This is a typical example: A young son approaches his mother and asks for money to buy something from the store. The mother feels that her son doesn't need it, so she says that she has no money. The boy is disappointed. As he goes into another room, he hears his father ask for money from his mother, and the mother replies, "Just get it from my brown purse."

If you were the son, what would you feel? How will you take your mother's words in the future? Do you think that the white lie of the mother was worth the potential resentment and distrust felt by the son?

Part of the problem is that the mother didn't realize that it was possible for her to say no to her son and to give her sincere reasons without necessarily creating resentment in her son. This option would have been less harmful than lying, even if the boy felt disappointed with her "no."

To be able to be sincere requires the capacity to communicate assertively and sincerely. We must also have developed the self-awareness to be able to face discomfort in our feelings. Your friend comes grinning and proudly shows you her new hairstyle. She asks you, "What do you think of my hair?" You happen to think that it doesn't look good at all. In fact, you think she looks ugly with it. What will you say?

In many cultures, it's proper to say, "It looks OK" or "It looks nice," even if it's a blatant lie.

By learning how to communicate assertively, we can have a better idea of how to give feedback without being judgmental, to speak truthfully without unnecessarily hurting the other person. 

TAKING BITE—SIZE EFFORTS 

In the quest for self-transformation, we need to experiment with daily opportunities for the integration of universal values in our life. Do it at a comfortable pace.

For example, try bite-size honesty. Using assertive communication skills, take risks in being truthful in small daily things. With these modest victories, we can gradually find it easier to be truthful in many things in daily life—with our children, spouse, friends, peers, office mates, etc.

Experiment with bite-size justice and fairness. When we forego an unfair advantage, we may find that we can take the apparent sacrifice. It also feels good deep inside. Again with such small victories, we will find it is no longer difficult to be just when it comes to large matters.

Do bite-size kindnesses every day. Say "thank you" to people whom you don't usually thank for small favors, like passing the salt. It gradually becomes a habit. We no longer even think of it. The "thank you" just automatically comes out of our lips whenever anybody does any small thing for us.

CLARIFYING PERSONAL VALUES 

To integrate universal values into our lives, we must do another necessary task: clarify our own personal values.

Many of us go through life not knowing that our personal values are not really our own. They are just reflections of the demands of our surroundings: our parents, friends, society, what people will say, etc. We begin to wonder why we're not happy in our careers or why we easily get angry when we're performing our work.

Winnie worked as a legal researcher in one of the best law centers in the country for about twenty years. When I met her, she said that she was due to retire in two years. Seeing that she was still young, I asked her what she planned to do after her retirement, thinking that she would set up her own law practice. She said, "I'll open up a dress shop." I was caught by surprise, and I couldn't say anything for a few moments. I asked her why. She said, "Ever since I was young, I had always wanted to design dresses and make them. Now that I'm about to retire, this is the thing that I really want to do."

"Then why did you become a lawyer?" I asked.

"When I was entering college, my uncle wouldn't finance my studies unless I took up law. So I did."

It's been more than ten years since that evening, and I haven't met Winnie again. I often wonder what she felt throughout the twenty years when she was doing legal work. I wonder what she's doing now. I wish that she's happy in her new career, doing creative designs.

Would you and I be willing to devote more than twenty years of our lives to something that we didn't really love? Lack of clarity of our personal values can condemn us to a life that we don't cherish, to a work that we don't find fulfilling.

It's essential for each one of us to clarify what is truly meaningful in our lives—things that we would like to live and even die for.

To help us attain such clarity, we must try to answer two questions. For some of us, they may be difficult to answer. Nevertheless, do your best. You can always change them later. I suggest that you write down your answers, not just think about them. Writing them will force you to be specific and to see your present hierarchy of personal values more clearly. The first question is, What are three things that you would like to do or achieve or become before you die?

Write them down in the order of their importance.

The second question is, What are three things that you would like to do or accomplish within the next three years?

In answering the first question, you're really searching for an answer that doesn't come from your outer self, which is your logical mind or emotions. When your outer self answers, you might reply according to the values of society, which may not resonate with your innermost self. You want the answer to come from somewhere deeper within you.

For this reason, it's important to review the list after a week, a month, and a year. See whether your answers are still the same. If at these different times your list is the same, you may be reasonably sure that you're hearing the answer of your deeper self. If the list keeps changing, then it means that you're listening to your outer self.

Your answer to the second question helps you determine whether you will be spending your coming years meaningfully. If what you do for the next three years has got nothing to do with your lifetime list, then decide whether you're doing the right things for the next three years or, on the other hand, whether your lifetime list needs to be revised.

Check also whether your personal values are in harmony with universal values. If not, review them and see whether deep within yourself they are really what you want in life.

INTEGRATION OF VALUES 

The above discussion and exercises constitute the first, but necessary, stage in the integration of values and behavior.

The second stage is the integration of these values. Two things are required to internalize values: 

1. Clarity of universal and personal values: We must be convinced that universal values are valid and truly worth pursuing, and also that our personal values are clear and strongly felt.

2. Contrary conditionings are neutralized. The conditionings to be neutralized are of two kinds:

1. Physico-emotional conditionings: those involving habits and emotional reactions, such as fears, resentments, etc.

2. Mental conditionings: those molded by cultural values, such as the measurement of success and failure and philosophy of life. They create preferences for lifestyles, modes of action, etc. This aspect is related to a review of one's map of reality.

When true clarity is achieved and conditionings are comprehensively reviewed, then values can be fully integrated into our life with minimal difficulty.


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